In the past, I have found that I generally try to avoid saying that I am busy. Sometimes, I even go so far as making more and more commitments in an attempt to “prove” to myself that I am not busy.

I think there are a couple of reasons behind my unwillingness to admit that I am busy:

  • I am worried that I will be seen to be wearing “busy” as a badge of honour. I don’t know why this bothers me. However, for some reason I simply hold an assessment at the moment that “busy as a badge of honour” does not feel as though something that I want in my current way of being. I have noticed that I will do everything I can to prevent myself being given a badge in recognition of my “busyness”.
  • I hold an assessment that “busy” is about choices in managing priorities. If I am “too busy” to get my hair cut, for example, then my interpretation is that this really means that I am not prepared at that time to prioritise getting a hair cut. Therefore, it feels to me as though I should be owning my unwillingness to prioritise a hair cut rather than claiming that I am too busy; it feels as though busy is an excuse.

When I first learned about my negative listening of the word “busy”, I started to change my language so that I could acknowledge the large number of activities in our life, minus the self-judgement that seems to come when I use the word “busy”. For this reason, I find myself saying things like “We have a lot on this week” or “we have a lot happening in our life right now”.

Funnily enough, this leads nicely back to why I have arrived at an exploration of “busy”. We have quite a lot happening in our life right now, and I feel as though it may be time to start setting some boundaries around how many commitments our family can manage. I have started thinking that perhaps it is time to give myself permission to admit that we are busy, that perhaps I can find a way of acknowledging this without judging myself for it.

And so I am now starting to look at “busy” with curiosity and wonder. Why do I have a negative listening of “busy”? What can I learn from others’ experience of “busy”? How might a different interpretation of “busy” serve me more usefully?

I therefore invite you to consider engaging in a discussion around being busy. Please feel free to discuss in the blog comments, or on the Blog Facebook Page:

  • What does busy mean to you?
  • How do you go about giving yourself permission to acknowledge that you are busy?
  • What requests would help you in your experience of “busy”?

As leadership and life coach, these points are all points that I am able to help people to explore. If you feel that it would be useful to HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH ME, please feel free to view my services on the Leading and Being website.

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2 thoughts on “Talkback Tuesday – 18 June 2019

  1. I often think I use the word busy when I’ve got so much going on but am overwhelmed and don’t know where to start so feel like I’m busy but not progressing. Like the song ‘I’m busy doing nothing’. Other times, particularly at work it can be non stop and that is a good definition of the word for me!! 😀 as I’m really busy being productive.

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    1. Thank you for your comment, which has triggered some reflection for me. I do say that I am busy at work. However, what I have noticed is that I have to be very busy (and probably almost at the point where I don’t know where to start) before I will say it. It is interesting that I can say it at work yet I don’t say it in my personal life. Thank you for that!

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