Goals. Most of us have them. How many of us really commit to achieving them?
My goal is to run my own coaching and facilitation business, helping others to see their personal greatness (we all have it somewhere), while also earning enough money from my business to put food on the table for my family.
I have wanted this for a while, and for a couple of reasons: I want to make a difference in the lives of others and I want to give back to the world what was given to me during my “Year of the Self-Doubt Crisis”.
The thing is, however, that I have been letting so many things get in the way.
When I first embarked on this journey of business-building, in January 2019, I had no idea of where to start. I also didn’t feel as though I had any runs on the board. Who on earth was going to take notice of a newly graduated coach who had a self-doubt crisis under her belt and not much more? A coach who had no ideas of her own, no programs that she could say she had developed, and no real credibility in the field of ontological coaching?
I realise now that because I was living in these questions, I didn’t push my business forward. I didn’t solidly put myself out there because I was worried that others would judge me. If I was doubting my credibility, then surely others would be doing so? I didn’t want to be judged.
I think that for most of 2019, I played it safe. I posted on this blog because it was my safe place to share my ideas and thoughts. I didn’t actively seek out coaching clients because I couldn’t deal with the possibility of them not gaining any benefit from my work. I have had some amazing coaches supporting me during the past five years. I wasn’t sure that I could be for others what these people have been to me. And do you know what? I won’t be. Because I am me and I have my own approach.
New Year, New Way of Being
This year, I have felt myself changing. I no longer feel as though I have nothing to offer. I no longer feel as though I have to hide behind the words and thoughts that came from my coaching course. In fact, sometimes I even change the words and thoughts that came from my coaching course, because they make more sense to me that way.
This has felt good, because I have felt as though I am my own person, ready to make my own mark on the world. It has led me to wondering what I am going to create in 2020 and the questions that I now life in have changed:
- When I get to the end of 2020, what will I have achieved that is different to my achievements in 2019?
- What am I going to do differently in 2020 in order to achieve my goals and the outcome that I am looking for?
One of my biggest lessons in 2019 was that the mood of resignation loves to visit me. It hangs around and distracts me from my goals. And then I do nothing.
Well, I am not letting it do that anymore.
I will notice resignation, and I will acknowledge it. I will not let it stay if it isn’t serving me.
This year, I am not going to let my goals slide. I am going to just go ahead and do it. Starting right now.
I am going to live in the questions of “What can I create?” and “What else can I see as possible?” and I am going to combine peace, ambition and wonder to move forward from those questions.
Just Go Ahead and Do It
So, my starting point, declared here first, in the presence of the blog followers who have given me so much:
- Leading and Being, my coaching and facilitation business, is accepting coaching clients. Coaching is generally via Zoom. For those in Canberra, Australia, in-person coaching is available. I coach outside of Australian business hours (after 6pm AEST on weekdays and most times on weekends). Click on the link at the bottom of this post if you would like to book a free initial chat with me.
- Website: https://leadingandbeing.com
- Leading and Being is now on Instagram: @leadingandbeingcoaching
- Leading and Being now has a Facebook Page: @leadingandbeingcoaching
- Leading and Being is on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/leading-and-being/
If you would like to follow any of my business social media pages, please feel free. If you would like to share any of the links with others, also feel free. If you, or someone you know, would like to chat about the possibility of coaching, please let me know.
A Suggestion to Help with “Just Going Ahead and Doing It”
For those of you who are feeling stuck in achieving your goals right now, you are probably thinking “Great that you have decided to just go ahead and do it, Deanne, but if it was that easy, we would all have just gone ahead and done it a long time ago.” I get that. I have thought the same thing myself many times during the last 12 months.
So, what would it take to “just go ahead and do it”?
When I made the decision to just go ahead and do it, I looked at my way of being, and maybe this will help you too. I invite you to think about the goal that you would like to achieve:
- What are you saying to yourself about this goal? What are your thoughts? How are these helping you?
- What are the emotions and moods that you have connected to this goal? Label them. How are they serving you?
- What is going on in your body when you think of this goal? What feelings, sensations, changes in breathing, posture?
- Don’t forget to shake that all off when finished, including moving to another spot if needed.
Now for two more questions:
- How would you like “go ahead and just do it” to be for you – in language, emotional spaces and body?
- What shifts to your language, emotional spaces and body might help you to get there?
It is ok to start with little steps. Change has to start somewhere. If you read back through my earliest blog posts on this site, you will see that some of my biggest change came from lifting my shoulders and saying to myself “I wonder what I will achieve…” so if you think that your chosen actions seem too small, they probably aren’t.
Besides, if we “just go ahead and do something” towards “going ahead and just doing it”, we are already that little step closer.
My passion lies in coaching people to become the most resourceful version of themselves, and helping new and upcoming leaders who may be struggling with everyday life as a leader. I believe that the ability to be whatever we want to be lies within each of us, and sometimes it is useful to have help in finding what and where that is.