Self-judgement. It has partnered with me for a very large part of my life. Unlike other emotions and feelings, I don’t always recognise that it is there. Perhaps that is because, in my body, it feels a lot like anxiety; anxiety on steroids.

Recently, I have been feeling quite at peace with life. I love my current job, we have just had a fantastic holiday, and I have finally accepted that the path that I am creating with my business is a path that works for me. And so last week I found myself driving into work feeling as though there was a huge amount of inner peace present.

As I reflected on my business goals and where I was going with them, I noticed that there was something else. Something that I couldn’t put my finger on.

Eventually, it came to me. For the first time in a long time, I was not sitting in self-judgement. There was no self-judgement about my business, about the path that I am creating, or about my goals. Instead there was peace, and an acceptance that I am who I am, doing what works for me. Acceptance that I am going to achieve my goals, in my own time and at my own pace.

What was interesting for me was that I had not previously noticed that the self-judgement was there. I was only noticing its absence.

This led me to reflecting on the year to date and where self-judgement may have been holding me back. Finally, I could see it.

So many times throughout the year, self-judgement had been walking along beside me, slowly and meticulously removing any semblance of self-belief that may have fallen in its path. And I hadn’t even noticed.

This new place of peace and acceptance seems to be an amazing place. I am curious about what I can create. I am accepting that I don’t yet know the answers to everything that lies in my path. I am admiring of myself for continuing to “give it a go”.

And so this led me to wondering: Where are you holding self-judgement? What does it feel like? How is it helping you?

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4 thoughts on “The Day Self-Judgement Stopped Getting in the Way

  1. I find the older I get the less I judge myself and more importantly the less I judge others. Like you I am not sure how this happened, the self judgement just seemed to fall away. Not to say that it never happens, but it definitely happens far less often. Like you I find it a nice peaceful and happy place to be.

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    1. Thank you so much for dropping by and commenting! Yes, I find that I am much less judgemental of others now than when I was younger. So awesome that you have experienced the peace and happiness of removing self-judgement!


  2. I love that you felt inner peace and no longer self judgy. What a feeling to have – contentment. It truly serves no purpose. Our paths continually change so why are we so hard on ourselves as times? Expectations I guess play a huge part. Thanks for this post – lots to ponder. X

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    1. Thank you for commenting. What can useful when we see self-judgement appearing is to ask ourselves what standards we are measuring ourselves against, and how those standards are serving us. Many times, when I ask myself this question, I find that I am measuring myself against standards that are not useful (and often not achievable).

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