Recently, I was offered an opportunity. It was an exciting opportunity, with the potential to become something quite amazing. However, as the offer was being made, I could feel the anxiety in my body. I felt it in my stomach and my breathing. And I noticed it in my thoughts.
I started to listen to what I was saying to myself: I don’t even know how to do that. I mean, I could do parts of it, but not all of it. I want to say yes but I am going to have to say no. I can’t do it.
As I listened to the voice of anxiety, I noticed another voice coming along behind it: Are you serious? This is one of those once in a lifetime moments! Say yes and work out the detail later! Don’t you dare say no! Say Yes!
Interestingly, once I let go of the idea that I couldn’t do it, I started to see what I could do, and I found myself accepting the opportunity and responding with a list of the value that I could bring.
This felt quite huge for me, probably because saying yes and figuring it out later is not what I would consider my normal behaviour. It was quite liberating to acknowledge that, instead of using my anxiety to shut down a possibility, I had used curiosity to create and accept a possibility. Amazing!
What seemed very helpful for me in this situation was the act of pausing, taking a breath, and listening to my thoughts. I noticed a few opinions popping up in my thoughts:
- I can’t do this
- This is an a fantastic opportunity
- I will have to say no
I didn’t judge myself for my opinions. I simply listened and noticed that they were there. As I acknowledged them, I felt able to understand the emotions attached to them. I also felt able to make a decision about which opinions I was going to give authority to. Then, I shifted my body, took a breathe, and said yes.
Now, I am excitedly trying to work out the detail.
Points to Ponder:
- Where would it help you to consider saying yes and sorting out the detail later?
- What would help you to do that?
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