Recently, I was offered an opportunity. It was an exciting opportunity, with the potential to become something quite amazing. However, as the offer was being made, I could feel the anxiety in my body. I felt it in my stomach and my breathing. And I noticed it in my thoughts.

I started to listen to what I was saying to myself: I don’t even know how to do that. I mean, I could do parts of it, but not all of it. I want to say yes but I am going to have to say no. I can’t do it.

As I listened to the voice of anxiety, I noticed another voice coming along behind it: Are you serious? This is one of those once in a lifetime moments! Say yes and work out the detail later! Don’t you dare say no! Say Yes!

Interestingly, once I let go of the idea that I couldn’t do it, I started to see what I could do, and I found myself accepting the opportunity and responding with a list of the value that I could bring.

This felt quite huge for me, probably because saying yes and figuring it out later is not what I would consider my normal behaviour. It was quite liberating to acknowledge that, instead of using my anxiety to shut down a possibility, I had used curiosity to create and accept a possibility. Amazing!

What seemed very helpful for me in this situation was the act of pausing, taking a breath, and listening to my thoughts. I noticed a few opinions popping up in my thoughts:

  • I can’t do this
  • This is an a fantastic opportunity
  • I will have to say no

I didn’t judge myself for my opinions. I simply listened and noticed that they were there. As I acknowledged them, I felt able to understand the emotions attached to them. I also felt able to make a decision about which opinions I was going to give authority to. Then, I shifted my body, took a breathe, and said yes.

Now, I am excitedly trying to work out the detail.

Points to Ponder:

  • Where would it help you to consider saying yes and sorting out the detail later?
  • What would help you to do that?

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5 thoughts on “The Day I Said Yes Anyway and Worked out the Detail Later

  1. It’s great to say Yes sometimes and just know you will get there even if you have to start by winging it. I’ve started saying yes to a few things that make me want to hide but I know will build my confidence and that I’m capable of getting there, like you say, you work out the detail later! I’ve started thinking of it like an exam, you sit there blindly panicking reading all the questions and having no clue but when you take a deep breath and break the questions down you get there….maybe not perfectly but you can do it!

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    1. Oh, I love the idea of thinking about it like an exam! Thank you for sharing, I think I might use that! I think there is great power to be had in saying yes to new experiences. I made a declaration years ago that I would say yes to everything that came up and then just deal with it. It was quite a freeing process, although I also learned that it can be ok to say no to things (like adult ballet – my knee will never be the same again!) Thank you for taking the time to comment!

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